Posted on Monday,

Dealing with Fear

Real fear: the running for our life or having someone trying to kill us is not a day to day occurrence for most of us.

Most fear today is in the form of worry, embarrassment, anxiety, and stress. However, our physical bodies treat both kinds of fear the same way with the flight or fight response. When there is nothing physical to fight and there is no place to run too, the tension rises.

Fear is an enemy of success.

Fear stops people from taking advantage of opportunities.

Fear wears us down physically and can make us sick.

Fear closes our mouth when we want to speak.

Here are some ways to deal productively with those feelings:

Posted on Monday,

Is Frustration Stealing Your Joy?

A simple solution!

What three things cause you frustration in life?

If these things were different would make life better?

What could you do right now to make it happen?

I had a friend who seemed to go from one crisis to the next crisis. After several years of listening and trying to help her problem-solve her situation. It became clear to me that if she did three things differently. Then, she could avoid most of the chaos that was a constant in her life.

This made me think …hmmm…if there are three things in her life that would make a difference. Are there three things in my life that I cannot see, that would reduce my stress and frustration? Sure enough, I identified the top 3 things that bothered me most and I develop rules for dealing with that issue. These rules became habits. With those habits in place, those annoyances (mostly) went away.

Posted on Thursday,

Strengths: What is your Superpower?

A key to a life you love

What is your superpower?

What do you do naturally, just as a part of your personality that is amazing? What do you do that you get compliments on? What do you accomplish easily that cause your friends to stress out?

Marcus Buckingham, author of “First, Break all the Rules” and “Now Discover Your Strengths” describes strengths as:

A strength is “an activity that makes you feel strong.” It is an activity where the doing of it invigorates you. Before you do it, you find yourself instinctively looking forward to it. While you are doing it you don’t struggle to concentrate, but instead, you become so immersed that time speeds up and you lose yourself in the present moment. And after you are finished doing it, you feel authentic, connected to the best parts of who you really are.